I know. It’s been crazy for you. You’ve had several business projects find their way to your desk, many with tight deadlines. You spend the majority of your day in meetings, traveling to those locations and stuck in traffic for thirty minutes each way for your commute. Your gym card has a fine layer of dust on it. The holidays are coming and you haven’t even thought about making plans.
In short, you are in a committed relationship with your job. A growing number of singles are spending long hours at work behind a computer rather than meeting potential matches and developing long-term relationships.
Okay, your work comes first. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have time for love or can’t handle a relationship or dating. Creating a balance between work, life, love and family is doable — no matter how busy you are.
The fact is: we all make choices in life. We all do what we want.
If you are putting in 60 hours a week in the professional department and logging zero in the love area, the right one will not find his way to your downtown office.
“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily.” ― John C. Maxwell, The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth: Live Them and Reach Your Potential
What does someone get out of dating you? Why should they put forth the effort? A person doesn’t want to choose a partner that cares so little about relationships that they aren’t willing to carve out time to foster them. Your ideal mate shouldn’t have to prove they are worthy before you start making time for love.
The reason to make time for dating, all the hassles included, isn’t because it’s fun or easy. It’s not because it’s a sure thing or that each one will be a night to remember. It’s because if you don’t, you will never find the partner you deserve. They won’t be served up to you on a platter or delivered to your office like take out.
Dating is work — but you have to put in the hours to reap the benefits.
Make the time. Like taxis and job opportunities, when one appears, a whole slew of others seem to follow. The hardest part is getting started. Step away from that safety zone, return that call and start dating. Your future self will thank you.