Like my vows to revitalize my health, many people have decided to focus their energy into their love life. It’s the time of year when singles become proactive about their dating lives with New Year’s intentions and Valentine’s Day hopes.
Listening to the soothing woman’s voice coming from my living room television as she made the triangle pose seem a bit easier than it really was, I realized that there are few lessons from yoga that carries over into matters of the heart.
Whether you are looking to boost your love life in the upcoming year or just looking to take your current relationship up a notch, here are a few tips we could all use:
LIVE MINDFULLY IN THE MOMENT
We are currently living in the Age of Distraction. It’s easy to get lost in the “noise” that surrounds our daily lives and pushes us further into the isolation of earbuds and text messaging. We allow ourselves to wallow in the past and hang our hopes on the future — allowing the present to rush by. However, life’s greatest paradox is that our brightest futures hang on our ability to live in the moment. Focus active and intentional attention on your present and what it has to offer and teach you.
CHOOSE YOUR PATH
Occasionally, we fall into ruts, patterns or paths of least resistance. We find ourselves drifting through the course of relationships, hitting milestones, without any real intention. It’s more of a “comfort zone” than true love. At this point, it is in your best interest to choose the harder path and break it off with your comfort partner. Having a relationship for its convenience or just to have one will not make either one of you happy in the long run. Breathe and let go.
Don’t limit your options by thinking someone isn’t right for you, is beneath or above you, or isn’t your usual type. Many of us end up with someone we wouldn’t have pegged as our type. Don’t get hung up on height, weight, hair color, hobbies, tattoos or musical tastes. You’d be surprised at what you can learn from them — and about yourself.
PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE
While I am currently unable to touch my toes (let alone my shins) and my yoga sessions included some choice four-letter words, I do know that with practice it will become more rewarding. Every time I hit play, I am challenging my muscles for greater flexibility.
Dating is supposed to be fun. It’s all about getting to know the other person a little better and walking away with a sense of whether you are going to see them again. That’s all there is to it. There are emotions involved and, sure, it has its awkward moments. But finding love means taking some risks, hitting play and getting into position. Just remember it takes time, patience and a whole lotta heart.
And don’t forget to breathe.