Most people have an idea what constitutes a desirable mate. We usually get fixated on superficial aspects like appearance, income or lifestyle and don’t give enough thought to the quality of the relationship.
It’s emotional intimacy, being able to share your truest, deepest, most vulnerable self with your significant other which makes us feel loved. Skip judgments based on what you can see or the digits on a paycheck and focus on how you connect emotionally; how comfortable you are being yourself when you are around them and how often you laugh and have fun together.
Really, that’s all there is to it. If you can read the paragraph above and know in your heart that your partner meets all of these needs and makes you feel great about yourself, then he or she has all the qualities to become your ideal partner. The rest is up to you.
A relationship is like any other long-term investment: it requires a great deal of time, effort and devotion. Couples come and go, but real relationships are those that can survive whatever life throws at them. They go through it together and come out closer than ever.
One final thing you should ask yourself before you decide that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with: Do you both share the same vision for the future?