From after work cocktail mixers to the first date at the corner bistro, we all engage in that first awkward dance called “meeting someone new” on a weekly basis. What should you say? How can you make a great first impression or guarantee that they will return the post-date text?
According to an article by Eric Barker, the former head of the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Program, Robin Dreeke, has pinpointed the most important thing to do during that first encounter to help take the relationship from awkward to smooth sailing.
In the article, Dreeke suggests that you “seek someone else’s thoughts and opinions without judging them. People do not want to be judged in any thought or opinion that they have or in any action that they take.”
Does this mean you agree? No. Not at all. It is more about seeking to understand where they are coming from, their needs and wants. Look at the topics you may not agree with as more of a side trip through “Fascination Lane.” Ask more questions. Show interest. Ignore your inner judge.
This goes along with something we at It’s Just Lunch has always promoted: show interest in someone else and they will show an interest in you. People love to be the subject of conversation. By taking them seriously and bringing them into the limelight, it casts a pleasing glow on you.