It’s been going smashingly well with that special someone you’ve been seeing for the past couple of months. As the summer months approach, you can’t help but think about getting away from the city with your crush, hitting the open road for a day at the beach or in a cottage in the mountains.
While some one-on-one time may sound ideal, you should be prepared for the inevitable awkwardness and how it could impact your relationship (both good and bad).
How Soon is Too Soon?
Obviously, every relationship is different. However, at a bare minimum you probably should have spent the night together at least a few times before you venture out of town together. Go ahead and get those awkward first-night jitters over with when you’re not 200 miles away from home with a virtual stranger and worried about sharing a bathroom.
Short and Sweet is Best
The first getaway should be short and sweet. An overnight stay to see a band a few hours away may be ideal. It would be best to avoid over planning or scheduling your time together. There will be a lot of adjustments as you learn to travel and stay with one another. Go easy.
Best Behavior vs. It Is What It Is
You’ve had the maid come by before each of your previous overnight dates, but she won’t be there to clean up after you on your getaway. Is your neat-freak girlfriend going to discover you’re kind of a slob when you’re shut up in close quarters together for several nights?
The reason you are taking this trip is for one-on-one time with your crush. This is a time to start pulling back some of the layers. Cleanliness, personal hygiene and how one reacts to stress are just a few of the habits that will be revealed on a trip.
Something to keep in mind. It’s emotional intimacy, being able to share your truest, deepest and most vulnerable self with your significant other when makes us feel loved. Skip judgments and focus on how you connect, how comfortable you are being yourself around them and how often you laugh together.
It can make or break you|
When you’re with someone 24 hours a day, you start to get a glimpse of the real person. String two or three of those days together, and you’ll have a pretty good idea if this is someone you can see yourself with long-term.
It’s easy to always be polite, smile and act like life is grand when you’re on a three-hour date, but a three-date getaway complete with a mountain road you’re GPS has never heard of and a lumpy bed that hurts your back might show you a new side of Mr. or Ms. Wonderful.
One fight does not a bad weekend getaway make, however.
“Every couple has a fight now and then,” says IJL ELite’s Jacquie Brownridge. “Ask yourself if what you fought about is a deal breaker or if how the other person fought was unacceptable.”
A relationship is like any other long-term investment: it requires a great deal of time, effort and devotions. Couples can come and go, but real relationships are those that can survive whatever life throws at them. They go through it together and come out closer than before.
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