In the cool of the evening
When everything is gettin kind of groovy
You call me up and ask me
Would I like to go with you and see a movie
First I say no, I’ve got some plans for the night
And then I stop, and say, all right
Love is kinda crazy with a spooky little boy like you
-Song Lyrics from “Spooky”
According to Dr. Phil, “Habits are your mind’s way of taking care of the little things that you have to do every day, but you don’t want to have to think about.” From the order in which you shower to sitting in the same coffee shop drinking the same latte, we gravitate towards routine or habits. It creates a nice little comfort zone that allows our focus to zero on more interesting things. You know, like a Facebook post. (What?)
Perhaps you’ve been dating a certain type of man or woman. Or it could be that you always do the same things on a date – does your fav Italian bistro and a flick sound familiar? In dating, as well as in life, there are times when we need to have our comfort zone shaken up a bit. Escape our normal routine and seek something to add a bit of spice to the mundane.
An easy way to do that is to widen your scope beyond common professional interests. Singles need to tap into that secret side that they keep hidden until the six month mark. That part of you that loves playing video games, watching old Star Trek episodes or pulling out your large and in charge comic book collection. Too often the most interesting part of us is kept in the dark. We smother our rom com writing passion or avoid bringing up our astronomy obsession.
From comic cons to sports fans to Trekkies to gamers, it’s our passions outside of the mundane 9-5 work day that can kindle romance. Tap into your inner passions and make a big impact on your dating adventures.
A Cosmopolitan article highlighted a few reasons why going with our nerdy side may help us find the love we seek, including:
1) Nerds Have Passion
You know all the members on the Enterprise and their complex personality traits. You spend your free time building a strategy for your online gamer world. Believe it or not, “it’s good to know that you’re hardcore. It says something about your approach to life.” Others will appreciate it.
2) Nerds Have Energy
Think of it as shining a very focused mental spotlight on projects, ideas and organizations. You are active, enjoying life and contribute to the masses.
3) Nerds Play Games, But Not “Games”
While they may play WOW or D&D, they don’t play games with the heart. They are pretty straight forward – “Want to?” “Okay.”
4) Love is Strange, They Get That
You love a variety of odd things that make you the unique person you are. A nerd can appreciate it and will even love you for being an oddball.
Read the complete list of reasons here.
Interesting people are all around us. Don’t limit your options by thinking someone is above you, below you or isn’t your usual type. You may be pleased as punch to discover the Trekkie hidden below the suit and tie.